“Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.” Matthew 5:31–32
The Father, Son and Holy Spirit are bound together in such a bond of unity that who they are and what they do are one. Their goals, aims, ideals and desires are united. Their’s is a mutually submitted relationship illustrating that ideal unity with which God has called his people to be bound together.
In no relationship is that unity better learned and in turn demonstrated than in the bond of mutually submitted husbands and wives.
God’s desire is that he be known and understood by us. For this reason when we were created he made us man and woman, husband and wife. In the process of that creation he took pains to make sure Adam realized his need for Eve before she was even created ensuring that the tasked oriented first man didn’t take his “helpmeet” for granted. In the marriage union God has given us a profound way of learning the depth of the reality of the bond of divine intimacy and companionship and in this we can better understand the ties that bind the Godhead together.
Satan in his warfare with God would obliterate the blessing of marriage by so corrupting and altering it that rather than being a model for godly unity it becomes an institution ruled by selfishness, strife, abuse and betrayal. At times it seems that he has almost wholly succeeded in his aim.
Even the legalistic minded Pharisees of Jesus day had lost sight of God’s grand purpose for marriage. They allowed that for the most trivial of reasons a husband could divorce his wife after which she was then free to marry another.
Jesus’ desire was to restore marriage as far as possible to its original purpose and potential and he made it very clear that this fast and loose approach to marriage was not in harmony with heaven. Marriage was to be permanent, and only adultery was grounds for its dissolution.
Friends, building unity between two people requires a lifetime commitment to faithfully investing in another person. It’s not always easy. Disagreements will come, sometimes it seems they come all the time, in these we learn to compromise when it’s possible and at other times we learn to selflessly submit to the needs or wants of our beloved.
Marriage has the potential of teaching us, like nothing else can, the extent and character of God’s ideal for unity and love, but we’ll never learn if we’re always looking for a way out.
Lord give us patience and endurance during the times of disagreement, and multiply and lengthen the periods of harmony. Above all, in our marriages help us to know and understand you better.